Friday 28 January 2011

life's like an hour glass glued to the table

Totally lost over the past couple of days, although i'm surrounded by people who love and care for me, i feel so alone. It's just amazing how one day approaching can change how you feel for a whole week.


Last march, i lost my sister faye, and today would've been her twenty-first birthday. Faye was an amazing person, she didn't give a shit about what people thought about her, she oozed spontaneity, and was just the best. She was a total free spirit, and we loved going on little adventures and stealing souvenirs (all of which i still have (mainly from virgin trains!)), and not a day goes by without me thinking about her.


I knew this day was going to be bad but i had no idea how much, which is weird because it would've been the complete opposite, if she was still here. Today was horrible, i was pretty much on my own for the most part, and i wandered around chester going to places we'd been to. If i had money, i'd be in my hometown, down at my spot by the beach. It's usually the only place that snaps me out of a smile-less day, but today in chester did the job, and an old friend bringing me a banana milkshake wasn't exactly the worst thing! When something's bothering me, i'm more of a 'smile now, cry later' kind of person, i don't like to drag people down when i'm sad. So after putting on an ear-to-ear grin all day, i got home and started sorting through all the crap in my room, it totally helps me!


Since faye got stolen from us, i've been obsessed with trying to find pictures of me and her, there's only a few even though i remember taking loads. The main one i can remember was taken on my phone and was when we went to this totally lame underground labyrinth cave in wales where we had to wear bright blue hard-hats, we took the piss the whole time, took a photo of us in our totally sexy hats and both had it as our phone background for months. I've literally tore my room apart at times, looking for the phone which i took it on because i know i have it still, and tonight i found it but it has no battery! I don't know whether to be happy or sad.

I don't want this to come across as a 'feel sorry for me' post, because it's quite the opposite, i want everyone to take it as motivation to do whatever the hell you want in life! Behave like a lunatic in public if you want, when are you ever going to those people again?! Totally cliche but, do something everyday that is outside your boundaries, make yourself think "fuck, i shouldn't be doing this". And most importantly, don't take anyone for granted, because, touch wood, one day they might not be there and you'll find yourself in on a friday night, listening to The xx, offering the skies the whole world and a kinder egg, just to see their face again, even if just for a second.


Happy twenty-first birthday faye, i bet the birthday cakes up there are frickin' awesome. 


P & L




26 comments:

  1. Oh Lovely I'm so sorry for your loss, sending you huge hugs.
    Happy Birthday Faye (the cakes are going to be totally awesome up there and, of course, calorie free!) xx

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  2. I read that with a lump in my throat. I am so sorry for your loss, its awful for anyone to die close to you.
    Happy Birthday Faye :)
    Sophie
    x

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  3. i also had a lump in my throat reading this post. Everyone can be strong on the outside but it must be the hardest thing to even cope with. If anything happened to my siblings i don't think i could cope seeing as we're triplets and closest. I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending lots of hugs and cups of teas your way!! Happy Birthday to your sister Faye. I hope your okay <3 <3

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  4. Oh hell, I am welling up. I don't know what to say really, everything I could say will have already been said to you. You are so strong, don't be afraid to let it all out if you have to.

    Happy Birthday to your sister. And I second what Purdey Singleton up there said re: calorie free cake in heaven.:)

    x

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  5. It's times like this when I feel so useless being so far away from you, if I could I'd whisk you to Parkgate for an ice-cream.

    Happy Birthday Faye xxx

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  6. Oh I'm so sorry about your sister. What a lovely post though and I'm glad you've got lots of happy memories with her. xxx

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  7. Lots of love to you and your family at this hard time! A lovely dedication to your sister. <3

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  8. Oh Em, I'm in tears. I'm so so sorry. I really wish I was there, don't know if that would help. You're sister was beautiful. I have no words, because I know they won't help. Love you to the sky and back xxxx

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  9. Your sister was beautiful. I'm sure she's extremely proud of the lady that you are and treasures those memories as much as you do. I wish there was a way that I could help take the pain away but I know it's impossible. This post was beautiful.

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  10. This is lovely; she is so beautiful and looks so happy! I've got a lump in my throat right now. I bet she's having a right old time up there! I hope you're okay, shit happens to the fucking best of people. It makes you realise how lucky we all are really.

    Bundles of love, Rosa :) x

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  11. Aww I'm sorry to hear x It's good that your surrounded by love and attention though x She does look so happy in those pictures though. x

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  12. This post pretty much stopped me in my tracks today, thank you for sharing something so personal and beautiful. I can't even begin to imagine how hard it must feel and how strong you must be. A huge happy birthday to your sister :) x

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  13. wow, I've got a tear in my eye. Gorgeous post!
    What matters is that you will never forget her, and that in some way, some how, this has tought you all the things that some times we can forget or take for granted.
    Happy Birthday to your lovely sister, I'm sure she's partying away & you will see her in the future
    xo

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  14. I'm so sorry, I know that might not help. Stay strong, but let yourself be sad, this post was beautiful to read and so touching. Happy birthday to your sister. Remember all the good memories. Love to you and your family at this time. xx

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  15. sending lots of hugs your way. <3 Stay strong lovely

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  16. i'm so sorry... i know i can't do anything to help, and i can't relate easily because i'm an only child, but i am truly truly sorry..

    i'm glad you were able to persevere and have a good day though. <3 much love.

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  17. This post is so lovely, I'm so sorry for your loss.. You and your sister sounded so close to each other I wish me and my sister were like that - all we seem to do is argue and get irate with each other. You've definitely made me think that I should try and improve the relationship with my sister before I go to university this year.
    Happy birthday Faye!

    Rhii xx

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  18. Sending oodles of love in your direction xox

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  19. I never met your sis but she sure did sound like a fab gal! xxx all my love, and big happy birthday.

    www.christie86.blogspot.com

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  20. this touched my heart, im so sorry your sister was taken from you..i have a sister and i cant imagine what your going through. im glad you talked about this and shared this with all of us. sending love your way :) xo

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  21. Love your blog am following!happy birthday, and this post was so deep, really something. Wishing you hapiness and love and stuff
    Flossie xx

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  22. This must have been such a hard day for you, it's nice that you are able to remember lots of happy memories too though. I'm sure she'd be proud to see you living life, although I know you'd give anything to have her back. So sorry for your loss, she sounds like a lovely sister xxx

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  23. Oh gosh :( I am so sorry to hear about this.
    I read this quite a few times over (I hope that isn't too creepy) as this was so touching.
    As with everyone else who has read and commented, I am sure she is super proud of you as you are of her :)

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  24. How sad Em, she was just beautiful. It's easy to feel alone, I get that a lot too. You have a heap of people who really care about you! (Even if we are just bloggers) she would be happy you're such a strong and gorgeous girl. xx

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  25. I really admire you for sharing such a personal and touching thing with us. Like I said on your latest post, I can't believe I missed this on the day you posted it :( but reading back on everyones comments really welled me up. I bet your sister is so proud of you <3 xx

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  26. I'm really sorry, I didn't check my blogs on saturday so i didnt see this post until you mentioned it in todays post.
    I'm an only child but when my mums sister died i saw what an impact it had on her,it was like someone had zapped some essential part of her that only my auntie could provide.
    nobody would ever think you did the post for sympathy sweet,sometimes its easier to talk to a faceless crowd than to people you know! (not that we're faceless, we just have very small faces).
    you did a good thing talking about her in your post.
    Happy Birthday Faye :)
    love and hugs to you sausage x x x

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